"...and they will not double down on calling everyone racists and -phobes (I think that was one of the things that brought you Trump)"

I think you're right. I just saw this on facebook:

"When all the non-racist, non-misogynist, non-homophobic, non-bigoted, everyday ordinary people get so sick of you calling them racists, misogynists, homophobes, and bigots that they go out and vote against your candidate, do you:

A. Reevaluate your personal conduct and strategy of convincing people to share your politics?

Or

B. Call them racists, misogynists, homophobes, and bigots and yell at them even more?

According to most of my timeline, you chose B. And that's exactly why your candidate lost."